There’s nothing inherently wrong with that.
I’ve been on that journey too, and there are times when I will still question a belief that is part of who we are as believers. And, as I’ve told my sons, it’s okay to question. That’s the natural progression of finding the answer.
The problem, though, is where we find our answers.
If you claim to be a believer, then the answers are found in one place – the Bible. You cannot come to conclusions based on tradition, feelings, emotions, intellect or rationale. Those places will lead you quickly to the wrong answer. In your conversation, the Bible has to be established as the authoritative source before you can proceed to answer their questions.
In his book, Ten Most Common Objections to Christianity, Andy McFarland responds to objections regarding Christianity. I’ve included some significant comments under each one.
1. I don’t believe God exists. How can I be sure?
There are ample proofs in nature that there is a creator, and the evidence for the truth of the Bible assures us that this creator is the God Christians worship and serve. “Theism” (the belief that a creator exists who not only made the world but who also has acted in this world) is defensible on philosophical, historical, scientific and experiential grounds. Further, all of the possible objections against the existence of God can be sufficiently answered. Based on these lines of evidence and the absence of legitimate counter-evidence, it is rational to conclude that God certainly must exist.
2. But what about evolution? Couldn’t God have created us but used evolution to do it?
…species have indeed changed over time to survive, but that the theory of evolution mistakenly claims that those adaptations can actually result in the creation of new species. It also inaccurately claims that life itself could have randomly evolved from non-living material.
3. How do I know the Bible is really true?
Our view of Scripture should be in harmony with that of Jesus. Christ affirmed the Old Testament (Matthew 5:18; Luke 24:44) and made provision for the soon-to-come New Testament (John 14:26). These facts, when taken together, point out that an all-powerful God certainly could create such a document, but is it reasonable to accept that He did? The external evidence, the Bible itself, and the risen Jesus all say yes.
4. What about all the errors in the Bible?
…we can trust on pretty good authority that the Bible we have today corresponds to the original texts. We have thousands of complete and partial manuscripts of the Bible dated very close to the actual events, and except for minor textual differences, none of which affects a major doctrine, there is remarkable similarity between ancient and modern texts.
5. What makes Jesus so different from other great men of history?
…Jesus stands out above all people because of: His prophesied coming, His supernatural birth, His miraculous deeds, His distinctive teaching, and His actions that substantiated His claims…the greatest proof of Jesus’ uniqueness is His resurrection, which has been verified extensively, through evidence such as the testimonies of the empty tomb, the numerous appearances of Jesus after He was resurrected, the instant and powerful change in the disciples afterward, and the complete silence of Jewish and Roman authorities.
6. Aren’t there many roads to heaven? Don’t all paths ultimately lead to the same place?
Not all religions can be true, since they make mutually exclusive claims. If Judaism is true, then Christianity, Islam, Hinduism and Buddhism must be false. Ditto for all the other religions: If a given one is true, then logically all the others must be false. Christians believe they are correct because of the evidence of Scripture, Christ’s resurrection and God’s indwelling presence in their lives.
7. Is hell for real? If so, how can a loving God send people there?
God is love, but He is also holy and just. He cannot ignore sin any more than He can ignore His own holiness. To do otherwise would mean He would cease to be God.
8. I don’t think I’m a sinner. I’m not so bad.
…being “not so bad” or “pretty good” isn’t enough to earn your way to heaven…you must be perfectly righteous to go to heaven, and that is only possible by trusting in Jesus’ work on the cross for you.
9. Christians are all hypocrites. Why would I want to become one of them?
There’s a saying: “Christians aren’t perfect, just forgiven.” It’s true. We know better and should behave better, but we are in the unique position of being saved while still being sinners. We can and do fail—quite often. It’s not judgment on the truth of Christianity that its followers sometimes stumble.
10. Why is there evil in the world? What about suffering?
God does not directly cause evil actions or suffering. God may allow such things to occur, but Christians do not blame Him for causing them.